45. Tony Pizza ON: The trials, challenges, and mistakes of our lives are the very things that cause the friction needed to motivate us to live authentically. This is an incredible human!

Tony Pizza, is one amazing human being that has truly come to find himself, love who he is, and live his authentic life. Arriving in this place of peace and happiness wasn't easy for him, there were many roadblocks and danger zones he chose to pass through, until the day came that he realized the patterns in his life that he had created that were keeping him from truly living as his authentic self. The expectations of others and even expectations he thought people had for him kept him from discovering who he was and what he wanted for many years, until he learned to forgive and let go. I hope that you will enjoy this conversation as much as I did.    

 

 

Tony, has become an incredibly wise man, and done a fantastic job of unlocking himself and giving himself space to live authentically.  Tony had some early trials and trauma that set him off on a course that caused him to fall into the trap of attempting to please his parents who were living two different live styles. His parents divorced while he was still a young boy, and he began to feel  like life was being thrown at him from many different perspectives which of course included different expectation and rules. Although this time caused a lot of friction in his life, Tony now he looks back on with gratitude and appreciation, because that helped him begin to recognize the diversity in humanity. Hearing him talk about Humanity and our connection with the universe is a fun spiritual journey.     

 

 

After High School, Tony wasn't sure exactly what he wanted to do, but he wanted a challenge and to do something "good", so he joined the Marines. During this time he began he began dating the mother of his children, they were married in the LDS temple, and this is where he started to feel the void in his life because he was in a way reacting to the way others wanted him to live rather than choosing to live a life he wanted to live. Although he felt good that others were pleased with him because of his lifestyle and decisions, it felt fake and he started to see that the people in his life liked him because he was living up to an conditions they held him to and the expectation of who he was supposed to be in regards to the culture he grew up in. 

 

 

This is the time he began to feel like the religion he grew up in, wasn't providing him with the answers he was looking for and it was in a way almost keeping him from becoming the authentic man he felt deep inside himself.  There was enough friction and darkness in his life that he began looking for his value through the validation through the opposite sex. After stepping out of bounds in his marriage Tony found himself in the darkest moments of his life. He felt deep shame to the point of thoughts of suicidal ideation, but something pivotal happened as well and over time Tony also began to feel liberated, as if he was freeing himself from the expectations of parents and others he believed controlled his life up to that point. After coming clean to his wife and telling her the truth she proceeded to get a divorce. Unfortunately, he repeated the marriage and divorce process two more times and attempted to fill the void with habits that became nothing more than an attempt to drown out the "noise" inside screaming at him to live the life of authenticity.

 

 

At this time, he took a 10 day trip to Peru in an effort to lose himself in a beautiful part of the world, to connect with the universe through silence, mediation, and to do a lot of walking and hiking. Oddly enough in his attempt to lose himself, that is where he came to find himself again. Tony was able to forgive people in his past that he withheld forgiveness from for years.     He forgave his mother and father for their imperfections but came to the conclusion that they never meant any of their weaknesses to be passed onto him and they never meant to hurt him in the first place. He learned that he didn’t need a verbal apology from any or every person he felt hurt by in his past, in fact many of them didn’t even know that they had done anything with a lasting negative effect on Tony. What he needed was to forgive himself for holding onto the negative experiences he had carried with him because of others choices. In his own words Tony says, “I learned that forgiveness isn’t about redeeming someone else from justice; forgiveness is about freeing yourself.”      

 

 

During a pivotal moment for Tony, as he thought about what he himself truly wanted to accomplish during his life, he came up with 5 things. His personal Motto if you will.  1. He wanted to Hike Mountains and exercise  2. Financial Freedom 3. Read many books 4. Write  5. See the world and experience new cultures He began to read and found life changing principles that spoke to him while reaching "The Alchemist"  Tony mentions that the courage he needed to be brave enough to change his life's course during times he was feeling friction in his soul being what he explains "the very test of life" and you he shares that anyone who is willing to do this, will find that when you take action the Universe has your back. It truly does! This was a very uplifting and spiritual conversation with one of my childhood friends. Tony is an incredible person that has used all of his experiences combined to practice compassion, kindness, and love for all of humanity. Listening to him talk about the beauty and authenticity of the human life and soul is incredibly compelling and enlightening. You won't want to miss this beautiful story and conversation.     

 

 

Tony, I love you brother. Thank you for sharing your life, wisdom, and beautiful soul with us. Your view of humanity and the goodness within each of us is inspiring, and truly refreshing to hear. I especially love that you and I can bring our different beliefs and "labels" of very similar truths together and engage each other in a safe place to discuss, learn, and see the other. We are far more similar than we are different, and the bridge that allowed us to find each other in that safe space was unconditional love and compassion for one another.     

 

 

If any of you would like to connect with Tony, you can find him on Instagram under the name @namaste.alchemy or @peaceuvpizza. You will feel uplifted as you see and connect to life and humanity through his lens.